The original and proper purpose of anger was to defend the integrity of our personal physical boundaries. The outward expression of anger specifically supported our survival in prehistoric times when we were under physical attack or in immediate danger from predatory animals or possibly other hominids. Anger helps in this case by firing up our sympathetic nervous systems and releasing the adrenal hormones which prepare us for ‘fight or flight’. Our blood pressure goes up, blood is diverted to the muscles and away from the internal organs, our pupils dilate and so on. As modern humans living outside a war zone, we are almost never in a situation where we need to defend our bodies, our helpless children or our immediate physical space (house or encampment) against actual violent invasion. Anger is therefore very rarely a helpful response to the events of our daily lives, but the neurochemical system associated with physical self-defence remains in place, and is easily co-opted by the mind to dramatise and intensify our emotional and psychological conflicts. Anger then becomes like a parasite which drains our energy for absolutely no benefit. *Read more about Anger and Power.
Guilt and shame may, like anger, have had a useful purpose in earlier phases of our evolution as social animals. When there is little consciousness of the impact our actions can have on others around us, when there is a lack of awareness and self-control, it can be beneficial to have some social inhibitions to protect weaker individuals and preserve the coherence of the whole tribe. Otherwise the strongest males are likely to literally throw their weight around and hurt others, especially the more vulnerable females and young. All mammalian species in which the males are bigger than the females face the same problem and typically solve it with lifestyles that strictly separate the two sexes, except briefly at mating time. In the human species, moral codes have instead enabled females and males to live together year round, albeit in a mostly uneasy coalition, which nevertheless has created much richer opportunities for social and personal development and ultimately for spiritual evolution. As we shifted from a tribal and nomadic culture to a more settled lifestyle with an agricultural economy and all that brought with it, the role of shame changed. Now it was more a matter of conforming to a community identity and to a restricted role within that. Families grew in size, monogamy became the norm and divisions of power and wealth emerged; women were more restricted in their behaviour and self-expression and as a result became more subject to shame and shaming. With the advent of the patriarchal religions, which built the actual expectation that women should be ashamed of themselves right into the core of their belief system (think Adam and Eve), that trend was fixed. The phenomena of guilt and shame became dominant in the interior lives of most ‘civilised’ peoples and came to influence almost all areas of human behaviour.
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